There is no ‘ideal’ aim for sexual compatibility. If you feel there is something amiss, talk about it

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As a sex educator and author, my job – my purpose in life – is teaching women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. My latest book, Come Together, is all about the science (and art!) of sex in long term relationships.

Since I published the book, one of the biggest topics I’m asked about in email and at events is sexual incompatibility. Here’s what I think people should know.